Most of us are dressing up because we have to, not because we want to. This article will definitely raise some eyebrows, and for some readers, I am simply preaching to the choir. However, as I talk about dressing up in this post, it’s not to offend, rather, it’s to inspire and let you know why dressing up is so important to your overall disposition. If you are reading this article, and can truthfully admit that you don’t often take the extra time to put yourself together, then I am going to be brutally honest, and tell you that you must change this mindset today! I want to challenge you to make an effort to stop throwing clothes on just to get through the day. Of course, there is a time and place for every outfit. But barring inappropriateness, there are too many situations in which you should look put together, and not appear as though you don’t care.
Now, before you roll your eyes, or before you start making the mental excuses why your style can be placed on the back burner, I am here to defend the “art of dressing up”. Let me tell you a little about myself. I am a very busy mom of two little ones under the age of 8, with their own ridiculously busy after-school schedules. I am married, and I am a career woman in the United States Navy. Further, I run and maintain this blog, and a Facebook Group of over 33K members. There are no nannies, housekeepers nor cooks at my home. I say all this to say that my time is just as valuable as yours, and my daily challenges might be similar to yours. However, with all the important priorities that you have on your plate, dressing up and taking pride in what you wear, is very important. Sorry to say, but a first impression is truly based off of your appearance, and if that appearance appears that you do not care, then others receive that message.
When you spend some extra time getting ready, and you look good, you feel good. You send the world a message that you are confident, that you have your affairs in order, and most importantly, that you care about yourself. The clothes you wear, and the way you groom yourself will change the way other people hear what you say. It will subconsciously tell them if you’re like them or if you’re different. Depending on the situation, it will determine whether they listen or ignore you. Have you thought about the message that your dressing says about you?
As a personal stylist, I hear a few number of excuses as to why women don’t dress up enough. They don’t have the time, they don’t believe fashion should dictate how people view them, they don’t have the money for an overhaul of their closet, they don’t have places to go that would require them to dress up. I call these excuses, and they don’t get you a valid pass to not take better care of yourself. Every time you leave your house, you have somewhere to go. As you step out that door, what you are wearing should still send a positive impression, even if it’s to run to the grocery, or to watch your kids at their soccer practice. Leaving the house in a wrinkled top, stretched out jeans, yoga pants (when you are not heading to the gym), and shaggy, slept on hair can have you feeling so ‘blah’. This goes further than what the world sees of you, it impacts how you feel about yourself.
On a budget? Dressing up doesn’t require you to have a closet full of expensive clothes. It also doesn’t mean that if you have expensive taste, that you must spend an arm and a leg on those items. If you have been following my blog, you already know that I love fashion. However, I love my savings account even more. Thrift stores, consignment shops, clearance racks can stock your wardrobe with beautiful, classic and quality pieces. Strive to purchase pieces that will boost your look and create a vision of success through your outfits.
Dressing up always improves my mood, confidence and personality. I attended a fancy soiree in Washington D.C., and this dress was perfect for an eventful evening. I found this dress on the runway at a fashion show in New York City during the spring. Needless to say, once I saw it, I had to have it. The best part, it only cost me $65, which is a score for a dress this fabulous. Yes, it’s over the top. Yes, I obviously cannot wear it to the grocery. But, the moment I had an opportunity to rock this piece, I certainly wore it proudly.
I added a touch of glam to this outfit with these chic minimalist Marc Fischer’s two strap velvet block heels. I found my pair at Macy’s during last year’s Black Friday sale for only $34, marked down from $80. You can find it currently at DSW for $59. Finally, I accessorized with some beautiful accessories, and a gifted clutch to bring the outfit together.
Remember, by dressing up, you will feel great, you act happier and you’re more personable towards the people around you. Start each day with a positive attitude and a bold appearance. As Rachel Zoe says, “Style is a way to say who you are without having to speak.”